So one of my Facebook friends is a girl I used to work with. She just posted pictures of her new house. Big, giant house. Nice neighborhood. Expensive. Fancy. Perfect. And how did she manage to move into a house like that? Her husband. All because she married a guy who has a great job, makes really great money. Ok, I know it would be nice to be happy for her. "Good for her" and all that jazz. No freaking way! Can't do it.
Once upon a time, about 3 years ago, I went out with her for drinks after work one night. The night got later and later, she partied harder and harder. By the end of the night she was heading up to a hotel room with the band. The whole freaking band! Not just one guy... but 4 of them. Oh! and at the time she was living with the guy that she is now married to. She had spent the whole night telling me how she didn't really love him, wasn't even really attracted to him, but he made good money and bought her and her kids stuff and took care of her. Then she ends up calling him and telling him she is too drunk to drive home and staying at my house when she's really going to a hotel room to sleep with an entire freaking band!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now she's on Facebook bragging about her nice, new house that this poor guy bought for them. I want to puke! I want to scream!
I want to know why the users and abusers get ahead while those of us who genuinely love and care about people constantly get screwed over!?!?!?!
I want to know why life is so unfu****g fair!?!?!?!?!?!?!
1 comment:
I'm sorry you're feeling frustrated and angry, Rocki. Whenever I start thinking this way, I often think of a quote my mom often says: "If you want to be miserable, compare yourself to other people." The users and abusers get ahead because there are just as many people who are enablers and who allow themselves to be used and abused. Life didn't start getting better for me until I fully embraced my recovery, ditched the victim mentality, got a backbone, and started setting some serious boundaries. That's not to say I still don't have moments where life seems competely unfair, but I can usually turn it around and see what's happened as a wonderful opportunity to learn a better, much more healthy way of living.
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